Are you ready to make a change in your life? Are you fed up or feeling stuck in a rut? Well, this post is for you! Here is a great way to get started to living your best life and making some positive changes ASAP! I put together a list of 20 big things to let go of if you are trying to live a better, happier, and more fulfilling life.
15 Things You Need to Let Go of Right Now to Live Your Best Life
Self doubt and Negative Self Talk will 100% affect your happiness. Self-doubt and negative self-talk are two very real factors when it comes to people not pursuing their passions. I know for myself, it is something I have always struggled with throughout my life. We have all been there, we have this great idea, or something we really love, but we let our own insecurities and self-doubt get in the way of ever achieving it or even pursuing it. When we don’t pursue something out of fear of failure, it is hard to grow or change as a person. It can make us feel stuck, and can have a big impact on your happiness.
Related Reading: 8 Simple Tips for Improving Your Self Confidence
What exactly do we accomplish by judging others? Does it make us feel better about ourselves? Why do you think that is? Honestly, whatever we are judging someone about, probably says a lot more about ourselves than it does about them.
Usually when we judge others it stems from our own insecurities and unhappiness. Let go of that negative habit, and when you catch yourself talking negatively or even thinking negatively about someone, make it a point to stop.
Comparison is literally the thief of joy. No one’s journey is the same, so how can you possibly compare your own personal journey to anyone else’s? In society today we are surrounded by social media, and it is SO easy to get caught up in comparing our bodies, our possessions, our careers, our timeline, and so much more with everyone else around us. We are all at different stages in our lives, so stop looking at everyone else’s highlight reel on Instagram and focus on YOU and everything you have accomplished in your life.
Follow your own path, do what works for you, let go of expectations and focus on YOUR journey. Instead of comparing yourself to others, celebrate their success and use them as a motivator to achieve your own goals, whatever they may be!
Making excuses will prevent personal growth. They help us avoid change, and they give us a reason to stay stuck exactly where we are. The thing is, there will always be an excuse not to do something. The timing will never be perfect. You will never have enough time. And so on, and so on, and so on.
Stop letting the excuses hold you back from being happy. If you are unhappy with your job, stop making excuses that prevent you from getting out there and finding something else. If you are unhappy with your body, stop saying you have no time to exercise, or that you’re too busy to meal prep. We are all busy. If you make it a priority, you will make it happen.
Stop wasting your energy thinking of excuses, and instead, use that energy on creating a plan of action.
When you learn to live your life for yourself, and yourself only, you will find a whole new type of happiness. I have always been the type of person to put every other person’s needs and opinions before my own. I have done this in relationships, in friendships, and with my family. What I really mean when I say that, is that I let their opinions and their ideas of what life is supposed to “look like”, impact my choices throughout my life.
When someone you love disregards your dreams or doesn’t take you seriously, you can let that crush your dreams and quit, or you can take their opinion with a grain of salt and remind yourself that not everyone in your life will always agree with everything that you choose to do. While feedback is great, in the end it is your life, and you can live it however the hell you want.
Never compromise your own happiness or life goals to please someone else. If you are afraid of losing someone because you are making a life choice they disagree with, then in all seriousness, you are probably better off without that person in your life anyway. If the people closest to you are not supportive of your choices and would actually allow a difference of opinion to ruin your relationship, than you need to seriously consider if that is someone who you really want in your life. Shouldn’t the people closest to you want you to be happy and living your best life as your true self? The answer to that question is a great big fat YES!
When we do not take care of ourselves, we are basically throwing our happiness out the window. How can we be truly happy when we are eating poorly, sleeping poorly, and engaging in unhealthy habits? Doing these things makes us feel badly about ourselves and in return decreases our overall happiness.
Some specific examples of health-related habits you should give up to increase your happiness:
- Going to bed too late or not getting enough sleep
- Not drinking enough water
- Drinking too much alcohol
- Eating processed foods or from fast food restaurants often
- Stressing about things out of your control
- Not exercising regularly
Sometimes, it really is all about your attitude. We can turn ANY situation into a negative one. But, we can also turn any situation into a positive one as well. I always like to say even the most negative situations will, at the very least, provide you with a learning experience.
By letting go of our negative attitude and practicing gratitude and positivity instead, we can see a HUGE shift in our happiness.
Next time you catch yourself complaining about something, take a step back and try to look for a silver lining or a positive aspect instead. This also works when having a bad day, or when you feel like you have a storm cloud following you around. Stop, think of 5 things you are grateful for in your life, and watch your mood shift.
For me, being more organized and having less clutter around me, improved my productivity. I cannot work in a messy space, and I cannot cook in a cluttered kitchen. When my work area is clean, I am more likely to want to sit at it and work. When my kitchen is clean, I want to cook homemade meals. When my house is filled with mess and clutter, I feel out of control in all aspects of my life. I find that when I am feeling overwhelmed or anxious, simply cleaning my house up makes me feel more in control and I instantly feel better. I am simply happier, calmer, and more productive in an organized,clutter free space!
Worrying about things that are out of our control (what others think of us, what the future hold, if our significant other will cheat) is a big ol waste of time and energy! I know not worrying is so much easier said than done, but if you really really think about it, has worrying about something ever truly helped or made a difference? I read somewhere once that when we worry about something out of our control, it is almost like we are making ourselves live through the worst case scenario, even if that scenario never actually happens. So when you catch yourself worrying about something for which you have no control over the outcome, ask yourself the simple question of “will worrying about this help to change the outcome?” For me, that seems to decrease the anxiety and bring me back down to reality.
Now if you are worrying about something that is in your control, like failing an exam or how much debt you’ve built up, those are not things you just just ignore or not worry about. Those are things you can take action on by studying or prepping for your exam, or seeking financial advice from a professional. By taking action on the things you can control, your worrying should decrease.
So, unfortunately we cannot change the past. I’m sure I am not alone in wishing I could go back and change one or two things that have happened in my past. We have all had that horrible relationship, that embarrassing moment, or that terrible decision that still haunts us. But guess what, we can’t do anything about it! BUT, What we can do is look at it as a wonderful life lesson, and then carry on with our lives.
Try not to get too caught up dwelling on something you cannot change. Doing that will have absolutely no positive impact on your life. Instead, use your past as a form of reflection! Learn from it, and move forward as a wiser person with more experience, into the next chapter of your life.
Your Comfort Zone
To grow and improve as a person, we NEED to push ourselves a little bit and let go of our comfort zone. How can we expect our lives to change, if we never actually change anything in our lives? Many of us are scared of change, or struggle with fear of failure, but I promise pushing yourself out of your comfort zone to try new things provides so much personal growth and learning opportunities.
Related Reading: 10 Ways to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
Stop feeling guilty for saying no to things you don’t want to do. Stop feeling guilty because you are following your own path. Stop feeling guilty about the little things like eating a second slice of pizza. And especially stop feeling guilty for living life exactly how you want to live it.
While I believe some level of guilt is important (i.e. as a child it helps us understand right from wrong), I think we all feel far too guilty all the time. If you constantly feel guilt over a certain area of your life, the best thing to do is assess why you feel that way, and then explore if there are any aspects of your life that you can change to help you feel less guilt in that specific area.
Anger or Resentment
Holding onto anger or resentment is honestly more hurtful to you than it is to the person you’re angry with. Learning how to forgive and move on is the best thing you can do for your happiness.
Holding a grudge over something that happened in the past has ZERO benefit. When you choose to forgive and move on, it is for YOUR benefit, not the other persons. No one is saying you have to forgive that person and then be their best friend or even have them in your life at all. But, learning to just accept the past, and let it go, will allow you to rid yourself of that negativity and anger, learn from the experience, and move on with your life as a better person.
The Small Things
Have you ever heard the phrase “Pick Your Battles”? Sometimes we need to learn to let the small things go. I am very easily frustrated, and sometimes I let stupid little things ruin my whole day. But WHY!? If something literally won’t matter in 5 days, 5 months, 5 years, why let it ruin your day or even any of your time at all?
Letting the small things get to you is the first step in having a negative mindset. When we learn to let those small things go and move on, we are choosing to stay positive and that small change can have a real impact on not only your day, but your overall happiness!
Anything That Doesn’t Make You Happy
Literally. Whether it is a possession, a relationship, a job, a habit, or a situation, let. that. shit. go.
Easier said than done? Okay, sure. But I am not saying you need to go out and quit your job tomorrow. What I am saying is decide right now that you want to make a change, and create a plan and a timeline to make that happen.
Life is too short to be filled with things that so not bring you happiness.